Does anyone else think Destination Weddings are rude?

I'm not talking about eloping where just you two or the two of you and a few CLOSE friends/family go. I'm talking about having a full on wedding with 100 or more guests that you would normally invite but making everybody follow you to some place to go to your wedding. It's like we're so important that you should have to spend your vacation days on our wedding and rent a hotel and spend a fortune AND get us a gift! Or, if you don't want to then just send us a gift and save us the cost of having to pay for your meal. Or my absolute favorite: I'm going to decide where you are going to spend your precious vacation time and dollars this year, and BONUS I get a FREE vacation for forcing you to spend your money here.(OK, can you tell that my nose is a little out of joint over this.) Anyway, I'm just wondering other peoples opinions on this. Are there others out there that agree with me? Am I being unreasonble ? Is there some justification for this that I'm just not getting?